DO YOU BELIEVE IN FOREVERS?
Last weekend Dag and I went to a wedding. It was a beautiful wedding. But in the middle of the ceremony the priest held the classic vowels that say that you promise to hold each other forever and more and to forever love each other, yada yada yada.
I am not going to be the pessimistic person about weddings, because I believe in the whole celebration of love. But can I ever promise someone, Dag or someone else, that I will be able to love them for the rest of my life? Promise to stick by them no matter what? I don’t think so… This has nothing to do with my loving Dag. Because I do. And I hope more than anything that I will spend the rest of my life with him. As happy as I am today. But promising someone a forever, how can you do that? I can hope for one. But you never know what is going to happen. Is it possible to just have a wedding to celebrate the love? A commitment to stick by each other, or does it have to mean forever?
Is this commitment issues? Or is this just the reality? The reality that people no longer are married for 100 years. That 63% of everyone gets a divorce. That the average marriage only last 5 years? I don’t know. But witnessing these two beautiful couple, it got me thinking about my forever. And what my inner 85 year old would be saying to me.